“Courtship is a time to see the good, the bad, and the ugly in the one we love. Then our emotions and decisions about the relationship can be based on fact.” – Joshua Harris, Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship
I first heard about Joshua Harris’ book Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship in a video produced by YouTuber Dani Austin. Dani mentioned that she was reading a new book that suggests the somewhat-lost art of courtship as a viable alternative to traditional dating. I was instantly intrigued.
Growing up in a Christian home and aligning my own values with Christ’s teachings in the Bible, I have always viewed dating as a broken system.
Although dating is an obvious step towards marriage, teens and adults alike treat dating as a time to enjoy the company of an individual while escaping the total commitment of an engagement or marital relationship.
Only minutes after finishing Dani’s video I launched the Amazon Kindle app on my iPad and began searching for Harris’ book.
Although it took me a month or two to get around to reading it, that was time I shouldn’t have wasted.
Only days away from my twentieth birthday, it seems as if my time as a “young adult” or teenager is fleeting. It’s time to step in the real world and begin to prepare myself for the plans God has in store for me. Through the teachings in his book, Joshua Harris opened some amazing and thought-provoking doors in my life.
Harris presents his thesis of courtship as an alternative to what we know as dating extremely early in the book. Seemingly from the first page I was hooked into this idea that seemed almost taboo compared to our culture today.
Harris does an excellent job balancing Biblical teaching with real life examples to create an easy-to-follow, engaging storyline that even weaves the relationship between him and his wife.
In fact, some of the stories are so engaging that I felt I was reading a romance novel instead of an informational book about courtship at times.
Harris’ extensive knowledge of the topic and personal experiences with the art of courtship shine through on every page. And although this is could be viewed as a “courtship for dummies” guidebook, his writing style allows the reader to escape into an engaging introspective journey.
Although this book is probably best-suited for those who are entering or are currently seeking a marital relationship, I truly believe anyone could pick up this book and learn a thing or two on building Godly relationships.
Harris provides some amazing advice on a wide-array of topics including the best physical practices for a couple in a courting relationship to one of my favorite chapters entitled “If Boys Would Be Men, Would Girls Be Ladies? How to Embrace Your God-Given Role As a Man or Woman.”
Final Verdict: 4.8 ♥s out of 5
Please don’t ask how I come up with these ratings, because I honestly can’t tell you. I just assign a number value based on my enjoyment and recommendation value of the book.
It was extremely hard to not give this book a perfect score.
I came into it expecting to learn a lot, but nearly be put to sleep with extensive references to scriptures and “the do’s and don’t’s of courtship.
Although these were present in the book (and are extremely important), they were presented in an easy to digest form and I applaud Joshua Harris for that.
It is obvious that this book wasn’t written for theological professors and instead for anyone who is willing to pursue God’s will in their relationship.
One of my favorite parts of the book is a bonus inclusion at the very end. Harris maps out eight great ideas for courtship dates. I will have to admit, they are extremely creative and sound like a blast!
I would be lying if I said I’m not eager to try a few of them out!
Joshua Harris is a pastor at Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland. He has written several books on relationships including the popular personal account I Kissed Dating Goodbye and his latest book, Humble Orthodoxy: Holding the Truth High Without Putting People Down.